Healing from toxic relationships is one of the hardest things to do. In the same fashion / way you already knew deep down inside of your heart, you shouldn’t have been in that relationship in the first place. Now that it’s over, you’re dealing with the consequence of rebuilding your self-esteem.
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How to get Through Healing from Toxic Relationships?
Yes it is shocking but it happens! I’m sorry your relationship ended. But you know it was time for a breakup! So now it’s time to go through healing from toxic relationships. Of course, your life is not over yet, it’s only the beginning for you.
For once, you must realize, it was not your fault. Stop blaming yourself, forgive yourself and move on. As a matter of fact, you must also forgive the person who hurt you. This is the only way that healing will take place in your life. Furthermore, you must learn from your past mistakes so you will not make the same mistakes over again.
Are you able to get Healing from Toxic Relationships?
Of course you are able to get healed from toxic relationships! Not only will you get the healing from toxic relationships but you will also develop your self-love and self-care journey. By the same token, changes begin with you on the inside, then take place on the outside to fully heal from a broken heart.
With this intention in mind, you must realize how beautiful you are on the inside and outside. That means to love yourself as the person God created you to be. For the purpose of this is to love and see yourself as God loves you. Which means you are created in the same image as Jesus Christ. Genesis 1:27: “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.”
What Can You Do To Control Your Emotions?
To put it another way you must feel your emotions, it’s unhealthy to not feel any pain while healing from toxic relationships. Whatever, hurt, pain, disappointment or unbelief you are feeling you allow yourself to go through the different stages of emotions. Trust me, I know it’s not easy getting out of an unhealthy relationship. Under those circumstances, you must give yourself space to feel emotions of sadness and process your feelings is the first step to healing from toxic relationships.
What Are Your Next & Final Steps to Healing?
1. Try Not to Contact Your Partner to “Check ln”
Generally speaking, this can be extremely difficult, especially a long-term toxic relationship, it will be tempting for you to reach out. Set boundaries for yourself and do not allow your ex to have access to you anymore. In either case, don’t fall for that trick of reaching out. However, you will be doing exactly what your old partner expects or wants you to do. That is a trick of the enemy to bring you back down. Once God has removed you from a bad situation to get healing from toxic relationships, you must leave the past behind in the trash.
2. Don’t Expect Closure
For the most part, do not leave the door open with the lines of communication to get an apology. Sorry to tell you but you’re wasting your time. It’s not going to happen, your toxic ex is too prideful to apologize so let it go. The only apology you need is from yourself for not leaving sooner. That’s when the healing will take place in your life.
3. Re-Discover Your True Authentic Self
After you’re going through healing from toxic relationships, you will discover who your truly authentic self is in Christ. At the present time, it’s time to discover who you are outside of that toxic relationship. At this very instant moment, it’s time to speak or say in life aligns with what your actions of creating the life into existence you’ve always dream of being you only. You were someone before the relationship, and you are still someone after the relationship.
4. Practice Self-Kindness
Toxic relationships can take a toll on a person’s emotional and physical well-being. From time to time, while you were in that toxic relationship, you’ve lost your self-identity or self-worth along the way. Sooner or later, you did stop taking care of yourself or putting your needs last. Without any delay, you are now healing from toxic relationships so now it is time to put “YOU” first. Be kind to yourself by speaking to yourself with kind words with forgiveness while being gentle with yourself. For the most part, you should never put anyone else’s needs before your own ever again in your life.
5. Focus on the Present Moment
During this time you may try to change the past or try to improve your future relationships. Or find different ways to have better relationships with unconditional love. Therefore, you even try to find ways to be around more healthy safe people in your life. Instead focus on the present moment in your life. Try to find out whether
Are you happy at this moment?
What can you do to make the current moment better?
Listen to what your body needs at the time it needs it to go through healing from toxic relationships.
Once you have master that, you will give access to safe people, healthy people, healed people to enter into your life. Remember it takes time to heal from toxic relationships. Some people may take longer but find positive methods in life to help you get through the inner healing so you will find the right partner for you.
This was very helpful to read after getting out of a toxic relationship!
Hello Tori! I’m so glad it was helpful to you!!!
Omg number one and two are such a struggle. Me and my ex have the most toxic relationship we were best friends before the relationship. So afterwards we broke up we tried to keep the frienship alive. We have 10+ years of history. We’ve moved on to relationships i’m engaged he’s in a relationship with a child on the way. But it seems like we can’t keep a simple friendship its always a disagreement. I want him to treat me the way i treat him. But it seems like i can’t get the same respect. I don’t hide our friendship from anyone. Everyone has always known This is my person we’ve been through alot together he’s always going to be around. But he doesn’t do that with “his people” he doesn’t stick up for me at all. So its always a battle. And we’ll go a long time without talking and then we reconnect. I haven’t talked to him in about 4 months now. And i definitely struggled the other day to not reach out. I miss just being able to call him and talk to him about any and everything. Its easier for me to vent to him than my hubby because of the fact that even though i can talk to my hubby he wasn’t there with me growing up to witness how things were and why i am the way i am. But my “friend” on the other hand grew up with me and witnessed everything so i just feel like he understands more. So yeah i do miss him it but i have to let him go and love him from a distance because we just can’t get along.
Hello Arnetta! First, foremost, I’m going to pray for your healing and to let go. Lord protect Arnetta, give her the guidance that she needs to move and let go. Let her know that you are with her and you are the only person who can healed her broken heart in Jesus Name, Amen! Arnetta, I’m so sorry you went through all of that with your ex but you must move on, forget about him and put your main focus on Jesus Christ and your husband. You will need to find a way to communicate with your husband so he will be able to understand you. If you need more guidance you can book a one on one session with me here. Prophetic Counseling
Thank you for sharing this! So many people experience a toxic relationship and knowing they can heal and move forward is so important . Thanks for highlighting some ways to move forward from that experience
Hello Nia! Yes many people are coming out of toxic relationships need healing. I’m so glad I am able to help others as well!!!
Good pointers. It’s hard to escape a toxic relationship but very worth it.
Hello Dee! Yes it is hard but once you take the first step you will feel so much better and realize how much you deserve better.
Great post. it’s tough after being in a toxic relationship.
Hello Karen! You will get through it, it simply takes time but you won’t regret getting out of a toxic relationship.
Healing can be difficulty for those people who have been in toxic relationships, am glad you shared some really useful tips on how to go through the healing process.
Hello John! Yes that is so true, healing can be difficult but people can get through it.
A toxic relationship will take everything from you and leave you with nothing. But afterward you will encounter a try of strength you didn’t know you had.
Hello Diomayra! Yes that is so true, a toxic relationship with take everything from you and leave you with nothing. When develop the strength to leave, your life will become so much better.
I think the first two points you made about not contacting the person to “check-in” and not expecting closure are SO important and So ridiculously difficult. It’s much better to let them go and get on with your life. Continuing to communicate with the person can keep you stuck.
This is so good! I have taken some detours in life and by doing these things I am in such a good place. I also love seeing you point people in the direction of using our faith. So much power in that. Thank you!
Hello Lindsey! Thank you so much yes, I love helping people and giving them direction towards their faith in God.
Such a great resource, thank you for sharing.
Hello Melissa! Thank you so much for your kind words!!!
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The post was super helpful. Great insight into a topic that many can relate to, I’m sure. Looking forward to reading more.
Hello Akansha! Thank you so much for your kind words!!!
Thank you for sharing this! So many people experience a toxic relationship and knowing they can heal and move forward is so important .
Hello Tianna! Yes I know but it’s very important for people to move, get healed and let go of it!!!
It is so emotional reading through your article being in the process of overcoming a toxic marriage and upbringing. I never thought I was capable or strong enough to get through it – I wish I had a list like this at the beginning of my journey. I’m not quite complete in my journey – I am not sure I ever will be – but lists like this always help me feel grounded and accomplished!
Hello Dana! You are strong enough and you can get through anything, nothing is too hard for you. Keep going, don’t give up. Before you even realized it, you’re going to be looking back and so happy you are now a brand new healed person.
This is useful and practical advice for those who have come from toxic relationship. It is usually a challenging period when going through the healing after a toxic relationship but am glad you’ve shared really useful tips that might come in handy for those going through this.
Hello John! Thank you for your kinds words and I’m glad I can help others who are going through toxic relationships.
Thank you for the guidance. I am fearful of a new relationship but this is helpful as I try to heal and rebuild new habits for the next relationship, Gives me hope!
Hello Danielle! It’s important to take time to heal and rebuilds new habits. I love to hear that you are working on yourself and becoming a better person.
Toxic relationships are draining, and I’m thankful that my friends and I have left unhealthy romantic relationships in our rearview mirror 🙂
Hello Kelly! That is so true, toxic relationships are draining. It’s amazing to hear you and your friends have left unhealthy relationships.