Spiritual Guidance

Did You Know It’s Okay to say No?

It’s Okay to say No

Yes, I know I shouldn’t be having this conversation, but it’s okay to say no! You’re nobody “Yes” person all the time. You’re not a pushover, a punching bag or a person who other people use or take advantage of.

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You Are A Person & Human Being So It’s Okay to Say No

Therefore, you are created in God’s very own image and you are not a do person or another person doormat. Genesis 1:26-27  Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over the livestock and over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.

Stop Saying Yes to Everyone & Everything

As a matter of fact, you are now a new person in Christ, so you will not be used or taken advantage of anymore. Equally important, it’s time to put yourself first. Stop saying yes to everything, thinking you don’t want to hurt others feelings. Trust me, they simply do not care about yours but only want to use you. Oh but wait, you can’t help it, you have a good heart and you love helping people.

It’s okay to help people but you’re not supposed to enable them.  Now you’re finally realizing that it’s okay to say no. Start setting boundaries and be around safe people that will not take advantage of your kindness or good heart. Not to mention you must learn how to protect yourself from getting hurt repeatedly. To put it differently, you must learn how to have healthy, better relationships with people.

Stop Being So Nice & Kind Hearted to People Who Doesn’t Deserve it

In order words, I know this goes back to when you were a kid or in Kindergarten where it says treat people the way you want to be treated. To put it another way, not everyone is raised the same way or even nice. So stop being nice to people who keep hurting you! Simply, they do not deserve your kindness or good heart. At this point you should know it’s okay to say no.

Learn How to Say No & Mean it

By this time, you know it’s okay to say no, you don’t have to do anything that you do not want to do. It doesn’t matter who gets mad or not, you do not have to say yes. Now it’s time to realize how important you and you matter. Remember you are here for a purpose, God loves you so much and He doesn’t want anyone to use or take advantage of His Children.

To demonstrate, if someone asks you for money, of course, this person never pays you back. It’s okay to say no, or if someone always wants you to do something for them but whenever you need help you can never find them. It’s okay to say no to that person. However, what about the person that always wants you to go out to eat with them but you’re the one that is always paying for their food and yours. With this in mind, they will always do these things until you put a stop to it yourself. 

It’s Time To Live Life on Your Own Terms

Under theses circumstances, you must deny others access to you. No longer will they be able to reach you if they you to do something with no return. You are a very important person, you matter so always remember it’s okay to say no. From this day forward, you will always be kind to yourself and put yourself first according to your own needs or conditions in life.

About Author

Christy Sanderson, the charismatic yet virtuous award-winning author, entrepreneur, public speaker, and founder of Glory Nation, is helping women find a purpose in life and get closer to Jesus Christ. She is a woman of God who has devoted her life in the service of the first six letters of her name, Christ, the Almighty.

Glory Nation is led by the mighty spiritual and inspirational disciple of God — Christy Sanderson.

Christy Sanderson is an Award Winning Author, Award Winning Entrepreneur of the year, and Public Speaker. She has a Bachelor's in Early Childhood Education, Master's in Special Education and she is an Educator!!! She has authored five other books, Woman of God Who Did God Create You To Be, From Nothing into the Woman of God: Spiritual Life, Woman of God Stop Looking for Love, God's Kingdom: Spiritual & Wealth Motivation and From Nothing into the Woman of God part 2. Christy has been featured on the cover of UBAWA Magazine, and several radio interviews. She was once a Co-Host on the Digital Breeze radio show in Atlanta, Georgia. At the young age of 23, Christy fully committed herself to God, letting Him take total control of her life, and started her own ministry, Glory Nation. Her life purpose is to experience and share God's Glory, to fulfill God's promises, and to help others become closer to Jesus Christ to find their life purpose.

(38) Comments

  1. Boundaries are very important. We must learn to say no to situations that are not healthy.

    1. Hello Carrie! I do agree we must say no to situations that are not healthy for us.

  2. Great topics thanks for sharing.

    1. Hello Twila! Thank you for your comment!!!

  3. Great post! Being able to say no is important.

    1. Hello Ella! Yes that is so important to say no!!!

  4. Very useful post! 🙂

    1. Hello Emma! Thank you for your comment!!!

  5. For our own mental well being we do need to learn to say no. So many of us are people pleasers, including myself at times. This is a great blog post 💙

    1. Hello Noelle! That is so true, we are all people pleasers but when you learn you know better.

  6. Such great advice and something I needed to read:). I’ll be sharing too!

    1. Hello Lindsey! I’m so glad it was able to help you!!!!

  7. This blog is a great reminder that I don’t have to give just because someone asks. I just went over how much I gave to a friend last week. Almost $500 that I’m sure I’ll never get back. I’m not angry with her but I’m very angry with myself. I’m going to read this blog everyday until I say no.

    1. Hello Nikki! Nikki, it’s very important for you to put yourself first and say “NO.” You don’t have to help anyone simply because they asked, most of the time people simply want to take advantage of the fact, you’re being kind by saying yes. But from now on, learn to say the word “No.”

  8. Brilliant, this post is like talking to me personaly, there have been times I felt manipulated into saying yes when inside I was screaming no.I just lacked the inner power to say no.

    1. Hello Roseline! You must develop the courage to say “No” from now on, no one can make you say yes ever again!!!

  9. there is a great amount of information in this post thank you

    1. Hello Tianna! I’m so glad it was able to help you!!!

  10. Very helpful post! Boundaries are necessary to protecting your energy. Thanks for sharing!

    1. Hello, thank you for your positive comment!!!

  11. That’s actually my biggest problem – learning to say no, especially at work 🙁

    1. Hello Mina! Trust me I know I have been there but you must learn to say no even when you are at work. People will take advantage of you at work because they know you will always say yes.

  12. A good read with useful ideas on how to set your boundaries!

    1. Hello John! Yes you must set boundaries!!!

  13. Love this post it’s such an important message to share. I used to feel so uncomfortable saying no but the more I’ve practised the easier it has become!

    1. Hello Alison! You must say no, if you don’t people will take advantage of your kindness!!!

  14. I think this is something that I’ve learned is okay but still struggle with it.

    1. This article has opened my eyes and encouraged me to learn to set more boundaries on what I will say Yes to!

      1. Hello Stephanie! I’m so glad it was able to help you to say yes when you want to. You don’t have to say yes to anything you don’t want to do!!!

    2. Hello Tianna! You will get better with it, the more you practice saying no!!!

  15. Yeah… I totally agree with you on this! Boundaries and knowing when to say ‘no’ is at the core of happiness and fulfilment.

    1. Hello Marie! Boundaries are the key to happiness and fulfilment.

  16. This is so hard for many! Your article is very valuable and one I need to share with a few important people in my life. Thank you!

    1. Hello Lindsey! Yes share it with some of your friends, they might need it!!!

  17. I was just talking to someone about this. Overcommitting prevents us from being fully present. I have done a better job at saying no the last few years.

    1. Hello Anature! It’s so good to hear that you are doing a better job of saying no.

  18. This is a great read. It is so important to learn to say no in life.

    1. Hello T! Yes it’s very important to learn to say no!!!

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