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Should You Be Dating With A Purpose?

Dating With A Purpose
Dating With A Purpose

Simply because you are a Christian does not mean you cannot date. However, you must be dating with a purpose. How can you make yourself available to your future spouse if you do not date? Now our dating standards are different. We don’t date without a purpose, we usually allow men to start courting us.

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Why Are You Dating with A Purpose?

Likewise, we always dream of falling in love, getting married and living happily ever after is a common goal for the majority of it. It is ultimately what God wants us to do because it means that children can grow up in a safe and loving environment. Relationships take commitment, patience and time to maintain and sometimes we need a little help. So we must date with a purpose as a Christian relationship, be series and commitment during the process.

You Should Be Dating with A Purpose?

Therefore, when you are dating with a purpose, you are allowing yourself to be courted by a man. Which is the process of trying to attract and woo a romantic partner to create a long-term relationship or to marry the partner. When a man brings a woman flowers or candy and tries to woo her, this is an example of courting her.

You should go out, have fun, meet new people and enjoy life. I’m not saying you should have sex with different but it is okay to date. As a result, you cannot meet your future husband if you stay in the house all the time. In fact, you must go out to different places with clean fun, it doesn’t have to be a bar or a club. Simply you can go out with friends to have brunch or dinner. Or you can be at a walking park, at the gym or even running errands; you might meet your future husband. 

You Should Make Yourself Noticeable to Be Dating With A Purpose

Ladies, I know there are some of you that are saying I don’t have to do all of that to find a husband. Overall you must make yourself noticeable to your future husband. For example, if you are anything like me, you know a man should find his wife. Proverbs 18:22 “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the LORD.”

Ephesians 5:21-25

21 Submit yourselves to one another because of your reverence for Christ.

22 Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband has authority over his wife just as Christ has authority over the church; and Christ is himself the Savior of the church, his body. 24 And so wives must submit themselves completely to their husbands just as the church submits itself to Christ.

25 Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it.

For instance, you must submit to your husband as he submits to Christ. Ladies if that man is not submitted to Christ, then who are you submitting to the devil? That’s why you should be dating with a purpose with a man of God. 

What if You Do Not Go Anywhere and You Are A Homebody?

Trust me I know I’m the same way, I love my quiet time at home for me to relax. Furthermore, there are many Christian dating apps for you to use. But before you start dating, make a list of everything you want in a husband so you can manifest him into your life. You should also take beautiful pictures of yourself to attract Godly and quality men. 

Take time to write your Bio or description of yourself, instead of looking at how good the man looks, focus or look through his eyes to see what is on the inside, not the outer appearance of him. Ask God to reveal his true intentions to you, date and get to know him, be patient and take your time to get to him.

Here Are A List of the Best Christian Dating Sites

Christian Mingle

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Dating is a journey with ups and downs. But all the effort is worth it when you meet someone special. So, when you decide it’s time to find that meaningful relationship, eharmony is here for you.

Ladies I know it may seem hard but you will never know until you get out there and try to date. Your husband is waiting on you but he must be able to find you. If you are comfortable with going out, try of the Christian dating sites and you will find a man of God. Try these dating apps out and tell me about it in the comments.

If you want to go a little deeper with dating as a Christian, get my Christian Relationship Workbook, it tells you how to date using God’s guidance. Now if you love to shop like I do you should check out “The Best Online Christian Stores to Shop” to find Christian stores to shop for the holidays or different gifts for family or friends.

About Author

Christy Sanderson, the charismatic yet virtuous award-winning author, entrepreneur, public speaker, and founder of Glory Nation, is helping women find a purpose in life and get closer to Jesus Christ. She is a woman of God who has devoted her life in the service of the first six letters of her name, Christ, the Almighty.

Glory Nation is led by the mighty spiritual and inspirational disciple of God — Christy Sanderson.

Christy Sanderson is an Award Winning Author, Award Winning Entrepreneur of the year, and Public Speaker. She has a Bachelor's in Early Childhood Education, Master's in Special Education and she is an Educator!!! She has authored five other books, Woman of God Who Did God Create You To Be, From Nothing into the Woman of God: Spiritual Life, Woman of God Stop Looking for Love, God's Kingdom: Spiritual & Wealth Motivation and From Nothing into the Woman of God part 2. Christy has been featured on the cover of UBAWA Magazine, and several radio interviews. She was once a Co-Host on the Digital Breeze radio show in Atlanta, Georgia. At the young age of 23, Christy fully committed herself to God, letting Him take total control of her life, and started her own ministry, Glory Nation. Her life purpose is to experience and share God's Glory, to fulfill God's promises, and to help others become closer to Jesus Christ to find their life purpose.

(24) Comments

  1. Awesome post, very insightful! Thanks for sharing!

    1. Hello Flawless World! Glad you’ve enjoyed the post!!!

  2. Thank you for sharing! Some great insight. I know dating has changed for me from even my 20s to 30s and what I prioritize.

    1. Hello Tracy! I do understand dating has changed a lot but simply take your time with dating.

  3. I can attest to the value of dating with the intent of marrying! I did this and it was such a blessing to be focused solely on what’s super important to me and focused on what I need in a partner, rather than just seeking out someone to have a good time with. This practice can lead to such a meaningful relationship! 🙂

    1. Hello Skye! It’s great to hear that you understand the value of dating with the intent of marrying. Yes it does make a meaningful relationship.

  4. Thanks for sharing!

    1. You’re welcome Deirdre!!!

  5. Thank you for thoughtful remarks on dating

    1. You’re welcome Jennifer!

  6. Melinda says:

    This is a great post. I met my husband very young and I honestly cannot imagine dating in this new era. But having purpose while dating is so important!

    1. Hello Melinda! I’m so glad you’ve met your husband young and it is important to date with a purpose.

  7. Great post I think dating with a purpose is good way of looking at it. Personally I was not christian when I met my Christian husband but I can see how this view would of helped. But God works in mysterious ways 🙏

    1. Hello Tianna!!! I’m so glad that you were able to met your husband and to become a Christian. That is some amazing news!!! God bless you!!!

  8. I love this view and I think everyone should implement this if they’re struggling with dating. Thank you for sharing Christy♥︎

    1. Hello Noelle! Yes it will be great for someone who is struggling to date!!!

  9. Lovely post. So glad you included dating websites.

    1. Hello Akansha! I’m glad you enjoyed the dating websites!!!

  10. Nimoramsey says:

    Great ideas shared, one should not fear dating as a christian . But should choose sites that suit them . I loved the you gave suggestions of such sites. Thanks for sharing

    1. Hello Nimoramsey! Of course, you must do what is best for you and discover which is your best option.

  11. Thanks for sharing, when i first met my husband he was christian and i was not i honestly didn’t think i wanted to be with a Christian well 9 years later I’m happy i took the step.

    1. Hello Tianna! Aww I’m so happy to hear that and I’m glad it worked out for you. That’s an amazing story!!!

  12. Thank you for sharing. It’s a subject which it should be given a lot of thought.

    1. Hello Elena! Yes I do agree it should be serious and a lot of thought!!!

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